The Three Essential Rules of Giving

Hello Friends, I was just going through the book I am reading “If You're So Smart, Why Aren't You Happy” which I must say is quite subtle yet engaging , and one , that I recommend everyone to read to get more better insight about "HAPPINESS" and "POSITIVITY". Also, here I am sharing interesting lines about "GIVING".

Being Kind and Generous is one of the most reliable source of both happiness and success. Does that mean the more you give the more happier and successful you will be?

THE ANSWER IS CLEARLY NO.. AND THE REASON IS... Although being kind and generous can make you happier and more successful, it also TAKES energy and resources.

So Beyond a point it is likely that it will burn you out. In other words, there is such a thing "GENEROUS TO A FAULT".

That is why, if you ever have to take care of someone 24/7, you were likely not a happy camper.

Although studies shows, that though givers are more likely to succeed in their careers, they are also less likely to succeed.

👀 THIS IS NOT A CONTRADICTION.👀

It turns out that there are two categories of givers.

The first is "SELFLESS GIVERS", refers to those who give so indiscriminately that they burn out and end up at the bottom, and the second is "OTHERISH GIVERS" are those who are smart about how they practice generosity and often rise to the top.

Otherish and selfless givers share an important common feature - they are both equally "well INTENTIONED ." --- They both want to improve the welfare of others.

However, what differentiates them is that the Otherish Givers aren't indiscrminately generous. They are better at identifying when, how and whom to give.

This might seem like a strike against otherish givers, but it isn't really.

It is the otherish givers who have a bigger impact on others on the long run. Two strategies -- The otherish givers use to keep themselves from burning out .

• The First is they contain their cost of giving.

In other words, they try to maximize the positive effect of their generosity. If they find that four or five people need the same type of help, they address their needs at the same time rather than individually.

If they believe that someone else would be a better source of help, they put help seekers in touch with these other people. In sum, they are efficient in practicing their generosity.

• The second strategy that Otherish Givers use is Value expansion.

It refers to managing one's own emotional resources in order not to burn out. So for instance, otherish givers take (authentic not hubristic) in the beneficial ripples that their action generate. They also feel grateful to be in a position to be kind and generous, which engages them to continue to give.